Rhythm!
I have lost
it more often than I like to admit. I
always have the best plans for the day. I visualize how the day will be before
I get out of bed. Believe me it will perfect everything is finished, the kids
are happy, and I feel like Super Mom! Then
reality hits me like a 4 year old who wants breakfast.
We start with a slow beat of getting breakfast,
cleaning up, getting dressed. We walk through the plan together as we list all
the things we(I) want to get done. Everyone is on board and almost ready to go if
someone would just put their shoes on. After a brief intermission we are on our
way...at which point I reevaluate my
list of "To Dos", going from
20 to the top 5 knowing that we will only get 2 or 3 of them done. By the end
of stop 2 we are ready to head home. It may not seem like it but that is a rhythm .
I know how the beat goes even if it means
I don't get to accomplish everything I planned.
Some keep the rhythm by having meals planned, chore
lists, family fun time, or Mommy time.
You need to find what works best for you and your family everyone is
different. We can get caught up with how
other people live their lives that we lose focus on our own. There is no reason
to compete with other mothers, unless there is a super fantastic prize that
someone didn't tell me about.
When we allow ourselves to compete with the
unknown "perfect" mom we can start to feel down and alone. We can
feel like no one understands our struggles of feeling like we never get anything
done, we don't have prefect kids, and how did we ever become a mom. Do we deserve it? Can we do it? Right now, there is a mom who is going though
this. She just needs someone to reach out to her.
Let's connect with other Moms and not compete. We all lose
our rhythm and need a restart. We can find support not only for ourselves, but
our families. It gives everyone a chance
to take a break from the daily routines
and focus on finding their own rhythm. It can give you an opportunity to start
new friendships. You can talk to someone
and have them talk back. Wow, an adult conversation -in the middle of the day.
Seize the opportunity if you see a Mom and connect with her.
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